Despite its morbid name this post is a celebration of a beautiful relation. All of us have family, friends, a partner, colleagues and, what I lovingly call, emotional crutches. These are the people in our lives who we always turn to in times of turmoil, its these people who will listen to all your whining and cribbing about how unfair life is, how, no matter how hard you try, things never go according to plan and who will offer the best way out of any rut you find yourself in.
Doesn't every friend, partner or family member do the same you may wonder, the biggest difference between all these people and emotional crutches is that the latter have no stake in the decisions one makes. Either way, one's actions don't really effect their life and this gives them the rare ability of being absolutely unbiased and unequivocal about their suggestions or consolations. They will be there when you believe the universe is conspiring against you, they will bear with you while you narrate how foolish you have been, they will even let you whine about how your boss has been a dipshit the past week. And they do all this, while holding counsel about your next big move in life, with no expectation from you, NA-DA. This, is an anomaly of the generic nature of human relationships because every relationship irrespective of its nature, is a barter system based on an exchange of a plethora of things, love, affection, pleasure, care taking and the never ending list of human wants. These special people, if at all, only expect that you go to them in the time of need, yes, you read that right, they actually want you to go to them every time you need help sorting your life out.
So, if they do all that for nothing in return, where's the catch you may say? Isn't it all a little Utopian? It is, the hitch here is how they almost become a part of your daily life without an actual physical presence around you. This confuses the brain and heart into categorizing them into all the slots already filled by the other people in your life. They become a little of a girl friend, a little of a partner, a little of a father, a little of a friend and sometimes a little of a life coach. With all these roles that they play, they invoke in you a feeling that you cannot describe, a feeling that cannot be put into any of the boxes modern society has allocated to the heart or mind. My emotional crutch has seem me through the almighty drama that is my life, my obsession with pleasing people while having insane expectations in return, career flunks that I could not get out of, emotional breakdowns and plain old bitching. He, an articulate writer, cannot fathom how to explain my existence in his life to another person. We just don't belong to any of the boxes!
It is simply impossible to define our relationship, to tuck it up neatly into the labels that we are all provided with since birth, friend, family, lover, colleague, acquaintance etc. Hence, I am snotty enough to assume the authority to coin a new term for this relationship, an emotional crutch. To all those others who have such awesomeness in their life, you know what I am on about, and to those who don't, well, don't even try to build this relationship, you either have it or you don't.
Doesn't every friend, partner or family member do the same you may wonder, the biggest difference between all these people and emotional crutches is that the latter have no stake in the decisions one makes. Either way, one's actions don't really effect their life and this gives them the rare ability of being absolutely unbiased and unequivocal about their suggestions or consolations. They will be there when you believe the universe is conspiring against you, they will bear with you while you narrate how foolish you have been, they will even let you whine about how your boss has been a dipshit the past week. And they do all this, while holding counsel about your next big move in life, with no expectation from you, NA-DA. This, is an anomaly of the generic nature of human relationships because every relationship irrespective of its nature, is a barter system based on an exchange of a plethora of things, love, affection, pleasure, care taking and the never ending list of human wants. These special people, if at all, only expect that you go to them in the time of need, yes, you read that right, they actually want you to go to them every time you need help sorting your life out.
So, if they do all that for nothing in return, where's the catch you may say? Isn't it all a little Utopian? It is, the hitch here is how they almost become a part of your daily life without an actual physical presence around you. This confuses the brain and heart into categorizing them into all the slots already filled by the other people in your life. They become a little of a girl friend, a little of a partner, a little of a father, a little of a friend and sometimes a little of a life coach. With all these roles that they play, they invoke in you a feeling that you cannot describe, a feeling that cannot be put into any of the boxes modern society has allocated to the heart or mind. My emotional crutch has seem me through the almighty drama that is my life, my obsession with pleasing people while having insane expectations in return, career flunks that I could not get out of, emotional breakdowns and plain old bitching. He, an articulate writer, cannot fathom how to explain my existence in his life to another person. We just don't belong to any of the boxes!
It is simply impossible to define our relationship, to tuck it up neatly into the labels that we are all provided with since birth, friend, family, lover, colleague, acquaintance etc. Hence, I am snotty enough to assume the authority to coin a new term for this relationship, an emotional crutch. To all those others who have such awesomeness in their life, you know what I am on about, and to those who don't, well, don't even try to build this relationship, you either have it or you don't.
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| Celebrating my emotional crutch!!! |
